Happy Friday, fam! I'm so excited to introduce you to a new series on my blog called "Fab Five Friday" where every Friday, I share five tips within health, wellness, plant-based eating, lifestyle etc. that I think you should know about.
We're starting our series with 5 Ways to be Happy Right Now - let's get this party started!
#1: STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK.
I put this one first because I think it's something that we all deal with and is also something that can drain our happiness the fastest. It's human nature to care about what others think of us...we're a very aware and conscious being. But what would you do if you stopped caring what others thought of you? Now I'm not saying go out into the world, be a total asshole and just not give a !*%@ about your actions.
What I am saying: what would you do with your life or who would you be if you decided the opinions of others suddenly no longer held value? Growing up, I used to base my value and self-worth off of other people's opinions of me and my actions. I believed in what others said about me or thought about me more than I ever believed in myself. The majority of my pre-teen, teenage years and even early 20's were rough because I had no idea who I was after listening to and believing other's views of me. It took a lot of soul searching to bring out the person that I am today and to stand strongly in the beliefs that I hold about myself regardless of what others may say or think. YOUR beliefs about yourself matter the most because guess what: you're with yourself forever! I know that's kind of weird to say, but it's true! If I'm being totally honest with you: I've let myself be unapologetically me and I am the happiest I've ever been in my life. I really like this person that I have shaped myself to be.
#2: MAKE A LIST OF WHAT YOU'RE GRATEFUL FOR.
Don't overthink this - just write. It can be people, places, things, whatever. For me, I'm grateful for my health, my family, my husband, my crazy corgi, my tribe, my job, my car, my happy place, my cup of morning tea, my fitness studio...the list goes on. When you spend time consciously appreciating and acknowledging all that is good in your life, even if it's just for a minute or two, things start to shift. Your mood improves, your worries / troubles subside, you become grounded.
#3: DITCH THE NEGATIVE SELF-TALK.
"A belief is only a thought you keep thinking." -- Abraham-Hicks
I used to be the #QUEEN👑 of negative self-talk. I took piano lessons growing up and if I didn't play a song perfectly during my lesson, I'd let myself know that I was my teacher's worst student and that I was such a waste of time. Every time I looked in the mirror when I would get ready, I would constantly remind myself that I was ugly or fat. Whenever I met a group of people for the first time, I would easily tell myself how much they didn't like me. "You're so weird. These people are totally judging how weird you are." Oh, I also made sure I knew how stupid I was during team meetings or client presentations when I accidentally messed up something on a slide or didn't know the answer to a question on the spot. "How could you not know that in front of the client? Everyone thinks you're an idiot. Your team is embarrassed by you. How do you even have this job?"
Nice, right? I let that little voice in my head have SO much power that I eventually started believing what she was telling me. And if you follow Abraham-Hicks like I do, you know that they talk a lot about how "a belief is just a thought you keep thinking." So one day, I decided it was time for some new beliefs and that the negative voice inside my head had to go. How? Well, I knew she was born from a place of false sense fear or inadequacy and I wanted to live in a constant state of true love and appreciation. Now, it's like there's a house party going on in my brain and the music (aka the good self-talk) is really loud. The old voice still stops by every once in a while, but I don't really ever let her in. Instead, I can hear her every time she knocks on the door but the party's just too much fun for her to ruin it, ya know?
How's your self-talk? Are you your biggest cheerleader or your biggest critic? List five things you love about yourself right now and bump up the music of your house party.
#4: EAT A NUTRITIOUS MEAL.
Think about a time where you ate something really heavy or greasy and how you felt after...gross, right? It's amazing how much better we feel, both physically and emotionally, after we eat something good that's good for us. Some of my favorite feel-good foods: a big salad; dark chocolate + berries; pumpkin seeds; an apple + nut butter; brazil nuts; guacamole. BONUS: Drink a glass of water. A lot of the time when we're feeling tired, lethargic or down, it's because we're dehydrated! Drink up!
#5: DO SOMETHING NICE FOR SOMEONE ELSE.
This has to be one of my favorites. There is NO way that you can't feel a little lighter and brighter after you do something nice for someone else. This doesn't have to be some grandiose gesture...you can simply just hold the door or elevator for someone as you see them running into the same building as you or leave an anonymous note of #GoodVibes on a stranger's windshield. But you could even go as far as paying for the person behind you in line at Starbucks in the morning or contributing to someone's groceries at your local store.
I hope you enjoyed this week's Friday Five! Have a beautiful weekend, friends.